The ONLY difference between an unborn baby and a newborn baby is the way it gets food and oxygen. Please, always remember that in both cases the baby and the mother are two different living organisms with two different sets of genes. A birth doesn't change ANYTHING in this regard. Please, remember also that a newborn baby will die without any help, just like an unborn baby taken out of its mother's womb.
How would you call a situation where someone purposefully ends the life of a living human organism that is totally innocent? I would call it a murder. However, some of such cases can't be called a murder because they are legal. Yes, I am talking about abortion. If it's not a murder (because it's legal) then how the hell should I call it? It's not a freaking “procedure”, because there are two different living organisms, not one patient. There is no way I can righteously describe legal abortion.
No wonder that many doctors strongly refuse to carry out abortions even when it is harmful to their careers. Kudos to them! In most cases it has nothing to do with faith or religion, but simply with respecting the survival instinct of any living organism. Many doctors don't like to “interfere” against such a basic thing.
We (me and my wife) have two children: a daughter and a son. In both cases we didn't want any prenatal diagnostic tests to be run on our children. For two different reasons. First reason was the fact that the more advanced prenatal diagnostic tests are in fact invasive and there is a risk that the child may be harmed by these tests alone. We didn't want to take ANY risk. The second reason was that even if the results were very bad we would not be able to have our child killed, even legally.
Interestingly our son did have a congenital malformation, but it did not make us regret our decision. On the contrary – it only made us focus on truly important things and to disconnected somewhat from this stupid and empty materialistic world. Sure we need money to buy necessary things, but the word “necessary” has got a whole different meaning.
We learned that there is something wrong with our son in the middle of the pregnancy. My wife's gynaecologist couldn't get a steady heartbeat of our son, but she didn't tell us about it and instead she sent us for a consultation to another gynaecologist. I had a very important day at my work, so my wife went there alone. We thought it was just a normal consultation, but when I got back from work my wife was all in tears. Basically the other doctor told her that the heartbeat of our son was clearly irregular, that he had congenital malformation (cleft mouth) and that there may be other defects. He even said that our son may not live long enough to be born.
That was truly devastating, but we stayed true to our decision and were ready to care about our son as well as we could, if he would survive. We are both religious, so obviously we prayed. When my wife's female colleagues at her work learned about our situation they started praying too, even if they were not going to church regularly. And it worked, I believe.
After one horrifyingly long week we drove to another city to get another consultation. The mouth malformation was semi-confirmed (the doctor couldn't get a totally clear view because our son put his both fists in front of his mouth, as if he knew we were watching), but his heartbeat was totally steady. The doctor took many measurements of our son's body and analysed them toward Down syndrome and things like that. He said that everything seemed to be perfectly normal, except for the mouth.
Until our son's birth we hadn't known how much his mouth would be cleaved AND if there would be also cleft palate. Thankfully the palate was only marginally cleaved, but his appearance was not good anyway. The bright side was the fact that he was able to eat directly from my wife's breasts, which was a surprise even to the nurses in the hospital.
Because of our son's congenital malformation the doctors in the hospital run a series of additional tests and didn't find anything worrying. In fact our son's general state was so good that he and my wife were released from the hospital right after 48 hours after the birth (the absolutely minimal time that they had to be there).
Our daughter was so worried about her brother's mouth that she was not even jealous about him (she is almost 5 years and 5 months older than he). Everybody was very supportive, but the only thing we could do was just wait for a surgery. We picked a hospital that specialises in such cases and they told us that we have to wait almost 5 months. Another long waiting period, as long as during the pregnancy.
I took the first picture below several days before the surgery. Our son made a strange look because he was concentrated on the camera I was taking the picture with (you can actually see his left arm reaching for the camera).
The surgery took place 5 month after our son's birth (almost to the day). The surgeons did a great job and our son's lips look stunning. I took the second picture over a month after the surgery. I managed to take it while he was smiling after my wife amused him. Click to enlarge!
The scar is not in a straight line on purpose. The doctor explained to us that a straight scar would cause strains that could slightly deform our son's lips over time. Our son is almost 4 years old and his lips look still very good. Here's a great picture of him (taken by my wife) when he was 3 and a half years old. Click to enlarge!
Well, a mouth is not only lips. Our son's gums look not as good, some of his teeth are a little twisted and one teeth is almost completely missing, but orthodontists say they will fix everything when he will be older. Here's a picture of him while he is smiling broadly.
He smiles a LOT. And he has a great sense of humour. We can't imagine a situation where he was not born. Here's a short film showing how fun our life has been with him (he was 2 and a half years old then).
SUMMING UP:
I like the world we live in because nowadays doctors can significantly help people who have health problems, NOT because they know how to carry out an abortion (or a euthanasia). Doctors should be only for helping living organisms, NOT for killing them.
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